random thoughts on the 23rd of january, 2004

something a bit amusing yet weird happened today... just after taking my lunch, my friends came to me and our other friends at our table in the caf, asking us to answer a survey... (which i initially thought was harmless, just like the usual student surveys for the research papers). i was wrong.... the intro went something like this....

hello! we are junior students taking up theology. as one of our requirements, we need to submit a research paper on a topic regarding moral ethics. the topic our group chose was WHAT CONSTITUES PRE-MARITAL SEX FOR ATENEANS....

after a quick glance at the intro, i started answering.

1. have you had a crush on the opposite sex? --sige, chika lang yan.
2. have you ever fallen in love ? uh.....
3. did you ever have a boyfriend? next...

ETO NA...

4. have you ever had sexual fantasies about the opposite sex? ano ba ito, Lord?!
5. are you still a virgin?
6. have you ever had sex?
(note: five and six seem the same, that's exactly the point of the research. they want to know how ateneans define pre-marital sex... probably because of the numerous articles in cosmopolitan asking margie holmes if foreplay is equal to devirginization)

7. have you ever experienced necking? (during this part, i played dumb)
8. would you allow your partner to "neck" you?

9. have you ever reached the first base? (an explanation of first base came after the question to guide the naive, playing naive, and even the "naka-first base na pala ako" people)
10. would you allow your partner to reach the first base with you?

(note: they asked about all the other bases)

for the finale, they asked this: what would constitute pre-marital sex?

my sarcastic self eventually conquered my "nice" self. i answered what we discussed for theo class just an hour before the survey. according to the stupid CATHOLIC CHURCH, divorce is not allowed, but they allow dissolution (which is a different thing from annulment. dissolution basically means that they recognize the marriage and just had it dissolved. annulment on the other hand, the marriage is only for appearance, meaning it pretended it existed but there is no meaning to it, thus, there wasn't any marriage at all). the only kind of marriage that CANNOT BE dissoluted is that of between two baptized christians whose marriage is consummated. leading you to ask, what the hell does consummation mean?

the three requirements to be considered as consummated (all must be required):
1. if the male's penis has maintained its erection
2. if there is penetration
3. if there is an ejaculation of sperm or at least the seminal fluid

and these were my answers for the last question of the survey... :D

right after answering the survey, all four of us, represented by both genders equally, were discussing about it. the funny thing was that all four of us came from the conservative high school, and as expected the other girl was a bit "naive" and "moral" about the whole thing. so i started the discussion. i asked my guy friend: when you males are together with your barkada, do you actually talk about your sex lives?

and surprisingly he said, that with his group, they seldom don't. it goes more like "ah! ganoon pala yun!". however, there really are some guys who do talk about it. that's where he actually stated a sad reality. GUYS REALLY GO FOR THE VIRGINS MORE, AND THEY SELDOM CAN EASILY ACCEPT IF THEIR PARTNERS ARE NOT ONE ANYMORE. their reason: a guy cannot imagine this scenario-- if he and his partner went somewhere and suddenly bumped into the guy whom the girl did it with (much worse if they really loved each other), the guy (who the girl currently is with) wouldn't stop thinking about how the whole thing went, plus the agony of imagining the one whom the girl did it with kissing and telling his friends about the sexcapade.